Friends Walking Through Grief

 I have been trying to talk myself out of writing about grief. Grief is a very delicate subject. Everyone grieves differently due to our nature. What I write on grief is my perspective. What you believe very well may be different and I expect that.

The reason grief has been on my mind is partly because in the last two weeks we have had 3 funerals to attend. But grief is not always the passing of a person.

One thing that has stuck out to me while living here is we all grieve in the same language and can find comfort in the Bible.

Walking to the Cemetery 

Some things to consider -

Listening and not giving advice unless you know them well, works best. If you give advice, make sure it isn’t just your opinion unless you preface that beforehand.

It feels like you aren’t doing anything when you tell the person you are praying for them. I understand. You can ask, "How can I pray for you?" Or is there anything I can help with?

If you want to be a safe person – you need to hear others, pray, and keep it to yourself. Some times are exceptional as in life-altering choices. Still, be careful with whom you choose to share it with.

Checking in with someone is important, especially if the person tends to feel like they are a bother when they text you.

Most of all – seek guidance from God on how to navigate the relationship.

To the one grieving – you will get advice that hurts. We as people aren’t perfect. Just like you spit out the seeds when you eat watermelon do that with the hurtful advice you receive. Take what applies, and spit the rest out.

I am still learning how to navigate relationships. If anyone wants to share their thoughts with me, I am here for it. 

An Evening River Ride